Pakistani Carch-22

Its almost has been 40 years since most Pakistani has been coming to this nation. The only thing that hasn't changed is the dilemma that any person who comes here faces. Whether to pursue their own dreams or to build something for their family by taking any job that comes by. The most ironic thing is that once the children grow up most of them are faced with a dilemma of their own, whether to go the path of their parents or to follow thier own dreams. I know that this isn't true for all the families that come here but its true for the majority of the people. I have been lucky that tmy parents let me go the path that I wanted and I didn't have to get any job that I didn't want, but most people are not as lucky as I am.

Is it because we are tied by our values so much that they cloud our true and rational judgement. The patriachal view of the father doing the work and the mother staying home. Could it be the cultural pressure where anyone who goes to a foreign land has to do good for the family so that the family is easily supported. Could there be any other reason that sometimes even forces people into making choices contradicting their rationality and free will.

Honestly I don't know and I surely don't have the answer but the only thing that makes me happy is that the trend is chaging and I hope that it changes for the good and not the worst.